Last night I spent some time in SL visiting different places.
This picture is on my sim so not one of the places I visited.
Talking to friends about relationships and such things as I travelled.
One common thread we all can agree on that we have experienced in this virtual way of life, is how hard we fall when we fall.
Online relationships are a beautiful thing in my opinion. The ability to get to really know someone before you may meet gives you something extra that maybe a meeting in a bar in RL wouldn’t.
Human beings are often very guarded creatures and we always hold something back, rightly or wrongly. But in a virtual world we often allow ourselves to really let go. Basically opening our core.
But… now here it comes.
When the relationship goes wrong, the impact that can have on you is immense.
You are like in a vacuum and that other person is the hose out. Or so you believe at the time.
I’ve experienced this, the total adoration of someone I don’t know, yet know. The hours of talking, the sharing of ideas both RL and virtually. Then the crash.
That crash feels more intense than anything you have ever experienced, the pain ten times more than that last RL relationship.
From my view I believe it’s because you mingle a reality and a fantasy together and it’s hard to destroy any fantasy. After all in life we hold on to our fantasies to see us through our difficult times.
But when our fantasy is devastated the impact it has on our real life person is often quite intense and devastating for some.
Remember that behind every avatar is a human being. A person with vulnerabilities, issues, feelings and RL.
Be kind and treat that person with the respect they deserve.
Leave your negative RL at the door and enjoy the fantasy.
But if you go to reality, do so with care and the knowledge that what you say and do can indeed impact that person.
Enjoy your day.
Lexi outfit from LaGeeny
Charlotte hair from Analog Dog
Catya bento head from CATWA
Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz
Lara mesh body Maitreya
Christy dark skin Lara Hurley
Shot on location at Namaste Beach