We women need to think better of ourselves

We women need to think better of ourselves

Spoke to my friend last night about the perils of online dating apps.

I won’t lie, Ive been on them years and still believe they’re like a sweet shop for people to try out and never make any decent commitments on.

When you have been around the continent like me then you become quite difficult to date. I’m the un-dateable!! I’m the cynic you read about, the one who gives it a go then says meh why bother. They’re all the same.

7/10 men who approach me now on dating apps are simply scammers. Now I’m not suggesting this is everyone, but people who are approaching my age group from the 40 year old upwards, usually are not really honest or have a good intention, especially since COVID hit. There will be the odd ones who decent so I’m not tarring all with the same brush, but this is my experience.

I spoke to a few guys I know who spend lots of time dating women on apps and they say the one thing about women over 40 is the assumption that we all must be desperate to date and will basically be an easy catch. So for the younger guys this is a fun game and for the love scammers, apparently makes women easy pickings.

Technically I tend to agree with that as I will be approached by either young guys seeking a “good time” or men who refer to me as one true love and all those generic terms scammers use to make you think you feel special. Me? Hell no I know from the first conversation if I want to speak to someone. Usually 9/10 its no.

So my friend and I were chatting last night and I updated her on my lack of dating interests. One was but then he suddenly disappeared and then she came in with her ones.

A 24 and 18 year old want to “do her”.

My friend is 60. Like what do men and young men think women are? “Do her” Really? What happened to the old fashioned woo you then bed you mentality. I remember that from when I was younger and at least you got dinner and a chance to decide if you liked someone before you moved to the base.

But folks this is what a lot of young guys are seeing as normal. We need to change this mindset Its not ok. They need to learn the art of effort.

Young women are more and more having to deal with this nonsense because older women often think this is all they deserve and can get. We older women need to say Beggar off more often and not feel this is what we deserve or the last of what we can have. It is not. Cheeky gits!!!

Women can go into old age and still be amazing.

Be like me. Keep the Knickers on and wait for the right one. At least my goodness get a few dates, a nice meal and some flowers for the effort of sharing your lady garden for fertilisation with some unknown dude.

I’ve learnt over the years that there is a art to dating, its like a little game. Where you both flirt and play that cat and mouse game, either the woman or the male. There is no rule to who is the cat. But you make effort and you learn that whilst getting to know someone, you may actually appreciate and like them.

Casual sex is overrated and frankly the best sex is the one you have yourself or the one you have with a partner who has learnt to know you and appreciate and respect you.

If in doubt, Anne Summers is your get go ladies.

Now I seriously look dateable in this outfit don’t you think?

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Credits:-

Rosella top from KiB Designs at the Designer Showcase

Marylin Denim Shorts from Kaithleens

no Suffer hair from no.match

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Superna Eyeshadow and Monica Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Jolly pose car from Amitie

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Cinco de Mayo

Cinco de Mayo

Cinco de Mayo is a celebration of Mexican heritage. It commemorates the date of the Mexican army’s victory over France at the Battle of Puebla in 1862. It is also known as Battle of Puebla Day.

It’s a day of celebration and in honour I managed to consult Mr Google to understand what it is.

I have only discovered this day via Second Life as it isn’t something celebrated here in the U.K. or Australia when I was growing up.

I thought it remiss of me to blog a top for the occasion if I didn’t at least know what the occasion was about.

Job done. I’m off to eat my brekky now.

Happy Cinco de Maya day.

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Credits:-

Cinco de Mayo tshirt free for group members from Entice (there are 3 colours, available till May 14)

Marylin Denim Shorts from Kaithleens

no Suffer hair from no.match

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Kinky makeup from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

That bottle

That bottle

I’ve sat here the past half hour staring at a bottle of water on my coffee table. There’s nothing about that bottle of water that’s really captivating or different from any of the other bottles of water out there.

Strangely, I just registered how amazing that bottle of water is. Looking around my apartment I’m staring at different things and realising how magical it is that we have them. Back to the bottle of water.

Have you ever stopped to think that the bottle of water is available to us because someone created plastic/glass bottles? Then the whole process of whatever they do to the water and putting it then into the bottles? I just did.

We take so much for granted around us.

Next time consider that bottle of water and remember how awesome it really is!

Now the fashion credits….

Credits:-

Sophie outfit from Le La at the Designer Showcase from May 5th

Amaia hair from eXxEsS

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Superna Eyeshadow and Wonyoung Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Chauen Scene Backdrop and pose from Amitie

Shop shein.co.uk!

Where would you like to be?

Where would you like to be?

I need a good day out in the Tropics somewhere on this planet. Well to be honest a day wouldn’t quite cut it, but maybe 6 months?

Weirdly I would find nothing more wonderful that just a handful of people on a tropical island, just swimming and playing in the sand all day. Barbecues by sunset and long walks within the trees that stretch across the land. Talking, laughing and just being happy with each other. Both family and close friends.

Is it odd I think that I don’t want a good night out with a bunch of people or some concert etc that people are currently looking forward to ? In the last year I have realised that to me its simple things in life are the ones that matter most.

My friend rang me today and asked if I wanted to go out shopping . I declined. To be honest what did I need to shop for? In all seriousness I have learnt that I don’t need a lot of the things I used to buy and I purchased then just out of habit.

Maybe my sense of money is that it can be here today and gone tomorrow, so why am I buying “things” I don’t need or actually really even want.

Im happy with the odd online clothes purchase as I then leave it in a basket, think about it long and hard before I even press the buy button. It allows me to reconsider do I really need that or want it. Usually 8 times out of 10 I remove items from the shopping cart because I realise that I didn’t really want them. I think we are all guilty of shopping without any rationale and just buying things for the heck of it at times.

Today I purchased something I actually did think about and to me is worth it. A book. No not a kindle one, but an actual hard copy real paper one. Old fashioned I know. But I do love a good flip of a page and bending pages down when I come across sections I love.

Funnily it was via a conversation with Drax that I purchased it after he started telling me some of the aspects of the book. Seriously you will have to watch Second Life book club this week as this author is going to be interesting.

I doubt I will have read the entire book by then, but I will be making a good start later today when I relax on my sofa.

Credits:-

Dulce Outfit from Seniha at the EQUAL10 last few days

Higher resolution of photo can be seen here

Bamboo pose and backdrop from Amitie

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Claire Necklace from [Kunst]

Superna Eyeshadow and Wonyoung Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya