I snuck in

I snuck in

This isn’t my house. I just fancied the backdrop for a photo!!! Shhhh don’t tell!!!

Monday today and fresh week, fresh attitude and fresh air. I’m not sure why I’m feeling chipper but I am. Nothing has happened to make me feel that way, I just do.

Though it could be said, I’m just rotating emotion and decided to put the other head forward. Who knows.

That aside, I’m currently really enjoying blogging lately. More so than I previously did. Which has surprised me. Seriously after 5 years I would have thought I was going to give up, but this far I haven’t.

Recently I had contemplated the importance of what I do in life and what matters to me etc. A friend spoke with me about my consistency and my “work ethic” in both lives.

I have a pretty strong work ethic both realistically and also via my virtual exploits. Neither give me great financial outcomes despite the efforts I put into both. That’s a huge fallacy that people assume as a blogger and vlogger it’s a given. It’s not.

It’s often asked of me , Liz why do you bother as very little read my blog or watch my YouTube videos.

The answer is quite simple, because I enjoy it.

The value in my activities are usually about how I feel about the things I do and how they make me feel. Pretty much as simple as that really.

No I don’t make money in my blog and my income from YouTube is negligible. Seriously we are talking literally £70 every 3-4 months. That basically covers a takeaway once a month!! For me though I reinvest into my blog and my video making. The remainder comes from my own monies.

I think people often assume that it’s a money making exercise. Nope. Love of feeling creative and disappearing now and then is the pleasure I get.

Again, why do I do it? Because I love it!!!

Credits:-

Kristine dress from Jumo at the Designer Showcase

No suffer hair from no.match

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Kinky lips and eyes from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

We women need to think better of ourselves

We women need to think better of ourselves

Spoke to my friend last night about the perils of online dating apps.

I won’t lie, Ive been on them years and still believe they’re like a sweet shop for people to try out and never make any decent commitments on.

When you have been around the continent like me then you become quite difficult to date. I’m the un-dateable!! I’m the cynic you read about, the one who gives it a go then says meh why bother. They’re all the same.

7/10 men who approach me now on dating apps are simply scammers. Now I’m not suggesting this is everyone, but people who are approaching my age group from the 40 year old upwards, usually are not really honest or have a good intention, especially since COVID hit. There will be the odd ones who decent so I’m not tarring all with the same brush, but this is my experience.

I spoke to a few guys I know who spend lots of time dating women on apps and they say the one thing about women over 40 is the assumption that we all must be desperate to date and will basically be an easy catch. So for the younger guys this is a fun game and for the love scammers, apparently makes women easy pickings.

Technically I tend to agree with that as I will be approached by either young guys seeking a “good time” or men who refer to me as one true love and all those generic terms scammers use to make you think you feel special. Me? Hell no I know from the first conversation if I want to speak to someone. Usually 9/10 its no.

So my friend and I were chatting last night and I updated her on my lack of dating interests. One was but then he suddenly disappeared and then she came in with her ones.

A 24 and 18 year old want to “do her”.

My friend is 60. Like what do men and young men think women are? “Do her” Really? What happened to the old fashioned woo you then bed you mentality. I remember that from when I was younger and at least you got dinner and a chance to decide if you liked someone before you moved to the base.

But folks this is what a lot of young guys are seeing as normal. We need to change this mindset Its not ok. They need to learn the art of effort.

Young women are more and more having to deal with this nonsense because older women often think this is all they deserve and can get. We older women need to say Beggar off more often and not feel this is what we deserve or the last of what we can have. It is not. Cheeky gits!!!

Women can go into old age and still be amazing.

Be like me. Keep the Knickers on and wait for the right one. At least my goodness get a few dates, a nice meal and some flowers for the effort of sharing your lady garden for fertilisation with some unknown dude.

I’ve learnt over the years that there is a art to dating, its like a little game. Where you both flirt and play that cat and mouse game, either the woman or the male. There is no rule to who is the cat. But you make effort and you learn that whilst getting to know someone, you may actually appreciate and like them.

Casual sex is overrated and frankly the best sex is the one you have yourself or the one you have with a partner who has learnt to know you and appreciate and respect you.

If in doubt, Anne Summers is your get go ladies.

Now I seriously look dateable in this outfit don’t you think?

Higher resolution image Here

Credits:-

Rosella top from KiB Designs at the Designer Showcase

Marylin Denim Shorts from Kaithleens

no Suffer hair from no.match

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Superna Eyeshadow and Monica Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Jolly pose car from Amitie

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Where would you like to be?

Where would you like to be?

I need a good day out in the Tropics somewhere on this planet. Well to be honest a day wouldn’t quite cut it, but maybe 6 months?

Weirdly I would find nothing more wonderful that just a handful of people on a tropical island, just swimming and playing in the sand all day. Barbecues by sunset and long walks within the trees that stretch across the land. Talking, laughing and just being happy with each other. Both family and close friends.

Is it odd I think that I don’t want a good night out with a bunch of people or some concert etc that people are currently looking forward to ? In the last year I have realised that to me its simple things in life are the ones that matter most.

My friend rang me today and asked if I wanted to go out shopping . I declined. To be honest what did I need to shop for? In all seriousness I have learnt that I don’t need a lot of the things I used to buy and I purchased then just out of habit.

Maybe my sense of money is that it can be here today and gone tomorrow, so why am I buying “things” I don’t need or actually really even want.

Im happy with the odd online clothes purchase as I then leave it in a basket, think about it long and hard before I even press the buy button. It allows me to reconsider do I really need that or want it. Usually 8 times out of 10 I remove items from the shopping cart because I realise that I didn’t really want them. I think we are all guilty of shopping without any rationale and just buying things for the heck of it at times.

Today I purchased something I actually did think about and to me is worth it. A book. No not a kindle one, but an actual hard copy real paper one. Old fashioned I know. But I do love a good flip of a page and bending pages down when I come across sections I love.

Funnily it was via a conversation with Drax that I purchased it after he started telling me some of the aspects of the book. Seriously you will have to watch Second Life book club this week as this author is going to be interesting.

I doubt I will have read the entire book by then, but I will be making a good start later today when I relax on my sofa.

Credits:-

Dulce Outfit from Seniha at the EQUAL10 last few days

Higher resolution of photo can be seen here

Bamboo pose and backdrop from Amitie

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Claire Necklace from [Kunst]

Superna Eyeshadow and Wonyoung Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

How to UNDO

How to UNDO

Honestly I’m not much of a tutorial queen but I am giving it a go. Expand the repertoire as they say.

Today it’s all about UNDO. You can’t be in SL and not know this tip.

Video:-

Credits:-

Pillow talk outfit from ::{u.f.o}:: at the ACCESS Event

Plumm Lip cream from Ives at the ACCESS Event

Scarlett hair from Rama Salon at the EQUAL10 Event

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Superna Eyeshadow from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Sunshine and smiles

Sunshine and smiles

There isn’t any! Sun that is. Well it’s slowly arriving.

Recently I decided to pay for Tinder 1 month access. Just so for once I could see who actually liked me. If anyone at all.

Well there is a huge list I won’t lie. I’m currently drawing crowds to my profile.

Crowds of no matches to be honest. A few have been masterful scammers. They all work on oil rigs offshore or are military and unfortunately their spouses dead and they’re looking for mama. Sugar mama!!! All ask if you have Kik or what’s app straight at the bat.

All want to know what work you do or if you have a son, does he live with you.

Well I’m bantering away and I’m a stock market broker and own my own businesses and retired at 42!

Sugar mama I am not. The most they’ll get from me is a cuppa tea and a sandwich.

At my age the search for love is a rather bumpy road to travel.

But………..

Credits:-

Higher resolution of the photo can be found here

Sunni dress (has hud) from Lemony at the ACCESS Event

Jolly pose car from Amitie

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Claire Necklace from [Kunst]

Mousse hair from eXxEsS

Superna Eyeshadow and Wonyoung Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

FRANCE PITTORESQUE

FRANCE PITTORESQUE

I’ve been to visit this destination and attempted a line in french in the video. Don’t expect anything grand as I’m useless.

I cannot speak french at all but really felt this video warranted me having a go.

Video:-

Credits:-

Dennise cotton top from Kaithleens at the ACCESS Event

Marilyn Denim shorts from Kaithleens at the EQUAL10 Event

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Mousse hair from eXxEsS

Superna Eyeshadow and Wonyoung Lips from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

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READY Steady going

READY Steady going

Are you ready? It’s nearly the weekend and another week we can close the door on and get ready to enjoy.

I’m not going anywhere as such but am tempted to make myself over and just see if I remember how to put that makeup on and get sassy.

Now me and sassy have been apart quite a while so I have no major expectations of the level of sassy I can achieve. But may as well give it a go. Failing that pjs and Netflix may be the choice.

I am actually positive I may step outside this weekend and see some life. Maybe walk around lakes and lay in the sun (if there is any) and read a good book. Crowds depending. Always the people. In reflection maybe not. I’ll lay on my balcony instead.

What are your plans? Going out into the world or going out virtually?

Credits:-

All for you dress from Entice at the Cosmopolitan Event

Addie bag from [DDL] at the ACCESS Event

Blaithe earring from POM at the ACCESS Event

Rebecca chains (on legs) from MICHAN at the ACCESS Event

Colourful passway backdrop from Pitaya at the ACCESS Event

Christie Static Pose from Lyrium at the ACCESS Event

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Olivia hair from Kuni at the EQUAL10 Event

Superna Eyeshadow from Velour

Peony lipgloss from IVES at the ACCESS Event

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

A little homely moment

A little homely moment

I’m sat here having a homely evening. A little out of sorts today and made myself dinner and feet up.

I’m going to bed early tonight and just close today. Tomorrow is another day and why not.

So I’m having a homely moment if that’s possible. Legs up and watching a rather lame murder mystery film.

I hope you all enjoy your evenings and I’ll see you on the flip side.

Credits:-

Lilou top and skirt from KiB Designs at the Designer Showcase

Tokyo Glasses M/F from Haysuriza at the Designer Showcase

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Kiara Hair from DOUX

Superna Eyeshadow from Velour

Maren lipstick from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Ted Talk

Ted Talk

I rather fondly call this my Ted talk. More so as I was in this video expressing a number of thoughts and so only watch if you have the patience to listen. Otherwise I seriously wouldn’t bother.

It’s cathartic to talk and so I do.

I will however be honest I cut out quite a chunk of what I spoke about as after doing so I thought nahhh it’s stuff I don’t need to share. But then I am quite a sharer as that’s what keeps me sane in life.

There are times we all need to share thoughts or moments with just someone. These days due to everything I just find myself sharing in my blog or in my Coffee talks.

Today’s I call the Ted talk because it felt like I was relaying something and well why not. Ted I’m sure won’t mind me using his name.

Video:-

Credits:-

Athena outfit from Saschas Designs

Lookaway pose from Diversion at the ACCESS Event

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Olivia hair from Kuni at the EQUAL10 Event

Superna Eyeshadow from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya

I’m just getting my swag on

I’m just getting my swag on

It’s after midnight and I’ve been beavering away for hours today filming things for the upcoming week.

I’m a little in a corner feeling that I want to do something new and different. I just can’t put my finger on it as to what.

Do you ever get those moments? I also am having a lot of self doubt right now and asking myself many questions about the value of the things I do. Are they worth doing? Am I bored? Am I tired?

I can’t quite say. I just know that my light is dimming and I actually feel very much alone. I did a Ted talk today which I was going to upload tonight. But I froze on the upload button. The overwhelming feeling that I’m just simmering away sometimes makes me want to turn up the heat and see what happens.

For now though I’ll just lay my head to sleep and dream of my next adventure.

Credits:-

Paris outfit from [RnR] Swag

Peony lipgloss from IVES at the ACCESS Event

Bright rainy backdrop and from Diversion at the ACCESS Event

Lookaway pose from Diversion at the ACCESS Event

HDPRO Majer soft head from CATWA

Olivia hair from Kuni at the EQUAL10 Event

Superna Eyeshadow from Velour

Eline skin from AMARA

Reflectice eyes from Amara

Lara mesh body Maitreya