Apparently it’s Christmas this month. I’m not sure if I’m weirdly ready for it. I’ve got all my Christmas gifts for others, but they’re more token gifts rather than gift gifts. I just cannot afford the spend.
I would say many people are feeling this too right now because let’s face it money is getting tighter and bills etc to live are getting way higher.
One thing I learnt from the lockdowns was that gifts aren’t essential at all. In fact they’re a bind to many who struggle and we need to feel less like we “have to” and more like “if we can”.
Everyone apart from my grandson will get token gifts this year and probably every year from now on.
What is important is the spending time with those you care about. A meal together, laughter and warmth.
Honestly in my growing older phase I’ve learnt a few things. Debt is a pain in the ass and especially debt for one day. We need to stop doing it.
Honestly who created the idea that the holiday of Christmas was supposed to come with a requirement of gift giving and overspending?
Funnily I never grew up with that mindset and as a child I was lucky I got a doll at Christmas. But back then I got excited for my mums glorious treats she would make and her special Christmas biscuits. The lovely cold meats and her infamous potato salad. I grew up where Christmas was in summertime. Also that was the one day my father was less of an asshole too.
Going swimming in the afternoon and then pigging out on treats home made.
Then I came to live in the UK and discovered winter Christmas. Which I now love.
I no longer cook at Christmas as my children are grown. This year I will be at my daughters for Christmas Day and at my son and his wife’s Boxing Day. It’s so nice that after 50 years of always cooking that I now get cooked for.
So despite this photo on my blog with a carload of presents, that won’t be my reality. Which I feel is ok. It’s all about family and good friends that counts.
What will you be doing?
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