Thank you Rosie

Thank you Rosie

Sometimes we need to look at our friends and let them know we thank them for being who they are and showing how much they mean to us.

Whilst todays video is a tour of a gorgeous sim, it is also my moment to thank those people who matter and I owe Rosie Helendale a very huge thank you that really even this blog or video cannot convey.

I was at a sense of rock bottom a few days ago and couldn’t stop myself from crying. It was uncontrollable and the pain in my chest felt so strong.

This lovely lady was the person who sat on the end of her phone and let me explode all my inner feelings about how I was feeling and allowed me that time to get it all off my chest.

I cannot tell you how important it is to have friends who can really listen in the bad times and who despite themselves going through their own angst, will be there to let you unburden.

Not many people get to hear that side of me to be honest. Its a rare thing.

I am open and will discuss most things close to my chest but there is always a point I retreat. So Rosie really heard my soul a few days ago and I thank her from the bottom of my heart for being the friend she has become in my reality as well as in my virtual.

We dont have to hang out every day to be friends, none of us. But when times are tough, knowing our friends are there for us, is what matters the most.

Be there to listen to your friends, they may need you.

Now the video and the beautiful sim Dya’s Scent of the Carribean.

Video:-

Credits:-

New attitude skirt from Entice at the Spring Fair

Butterfly accessory from Entice at the Spring Fair

Jandi hair from L{Limerence} at the EQUAL10 Event

New attitude top from Entice

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty

Shot on location at Dya’s Scent of the Carribean

Little bird

Little bird

Little bird, let me love and protect you.

Let me nurse you to spread your wings and fly.

So yesterday I had a major meltdown. Major.

It’s to be expected but none the less I scared even myself.

The rollercoaster of emotions that come and go during this time is something I know many of us can’t control and what do we do?

Well my honest answer is, why hide how you are feeling. Yesterday my whole work team got to experience how I was feeling.

Usually I’m chatty and laughing but something snapped and I let them all know that hey guys I’m not ok, I had questions to ask. I was told that the meeting was not the forum to ask those questions.

I felt bad about it, burst out crying and ended my side of a video conference call.

I cried all day and all evening. Cried my heart out. Missing my children and also upset with myself for my human outburst which may have upset my colleagues.

BUT I woke up today and thought, hang on a minute!!! Why ask me if I’m ok but then shut me down when I answer.

Isn’t the point of that question is to get my honest answer? Isn’t it? Aren’t meetings about the well being of staff supposed to also address that there are people not coping ok?

So today I wake up and I feel much better about it because I realise that I allowed them to see I’m not. But when it was seen I’m not ok, it suddenly is not “appropriate” to not be ok as people can’t face the reality of what that question actually means.

I think a lot of you know what I mean. It’s the seen to be doing something but not actually doing it.

I don’t blame my colleagues or my manager at all. They’re human beings too and are also struggling with their own inner conflicts.

But will I participate in these meetings in the future? No. Because, if I am asked am I ok, I don’t feel I should pretend I am, when I am not. That is a waste of time for me and my logical mind says that I’d rather work than do that dance because it ticks a box.

I’d rather get on a telephone and talk to a good friend who understands and isn’t scared to listen or answer.

The worst part of yesterday. It was a video conference. So not only did my colleagues hear my upset, but they got to see it. That isn’t fair to me or them.

One thing I am learning in this whole experience that we deal with things in very different ways.

That we mustn’t keep inside how we are feeling because by doing that we make it worse.

Talking about your feelings is important and even if they’re irrational, airing them helps you to move forward.

I truly advocate open discussions and checking in on people. Letting people know you may need help or that you just need a hug.

As human beings we are quite social beings on the whole. Although some of us like solitude, we also need to express emotion, talk, feel, hug, love and be ultimately human.

It’s totally ok to melt down. It’s totally ok to cry. Shout and be irrational.

Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for those feelings. COVID19 is affecting everyone in many ways.

Be there to listen. Be there to show you do care.

Be human!

Credits:-

Alyxx utility jumpsuit from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

Halo hair from Knox at the Tres Chic

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Shot on location at Dya’s scent of carribean

Mental health

Mental health

As I write this blog I am watching and listening to the Avicii tribute concert.  (You see I can do it when its my choice) Dancing in my head. My heart is warm with memories of his tracks and how they feature in my own memories of his time and how his songs brought meaning to different parts of my past few years since I started following him.

You know what its like, a song has a meaning.

I have been an Avicii fan for as long as I knew of him. He inspired me for a long period to think I could do what he did and look outside of the box because of a love of music.  I followed that passion for a number of years mixing in my living room and playing with music.

I even released and have quite a few tracks published and mini albums.

Nothing outstanding, but stuff I did enjoy and I like to listen to even though its me.

It was my hobby and in that moment I felt just like him. He so inspired me . Just like he has inspired so many people out there and given memories to moments in time with the music.

You see not many people come along and just project instantly like he did. Release amazing track after amazing track.

Its so sad that despite being this incredibly talented creative person with a life ahead, that he took his life.

Mental health is very often a hidden thing that you cant see or hear until its too late.

The continuous work behind supporting and helping people with mental health issues is ongoing around us but still not enough people give it time and thought.

We all have had people who we have lost because of their mental health. The past few years I have experienced this both with my father, a woman I helped and my daughters friends mum.

It affects all of us and priority to be aware is increasing as more and more people are struggling in this world.

I wanted to write  while I virtually attend this concert because its the time to do it.

I hope you are watching it and if you are not…here is the link as it has been live streaming the past 4 hours.

The Tim Bergling foundation was created byKlas and Anki Bergling the parents and family of Avicii (Tim) in hounour of his death.

The idea behind the foundation is about the importance of recognizing and treating the early signs of deteriorating mental health, anxiety, and depression for performing artists and those working in the music industry.

But it isn’t just about artists. Average every day people experience this, but it does highlight that sometimes we view people as being happy and healthy in their mental health when they are not.  The perception “they have it all” is often not true.

Behind the riches and fame, beats loneliness, frustration, depression all rolled into one.

We need to open our eyes. Around us, in life and virtual life.

 

Are you mentally aware?

Are you mentally aware?

I have just finished my week long course on Mental Health awareness. It is mental health week as well in case you are not aware.

I feel more drained and really aware right now. Because with more knowledge comes the awareness and the realisation of how fragile people are and how people who lack social skills can severely damage them.

Frankly what I have heard and seen this week has really brought so much more home to me how little things to us are monumentally huge to others.

Bullies and trolls are the underbelly of society. They are the underbelly of the virtual worlds we reside in, the underbelly of social media and the underbelly of families who don’t realise they have them in their midst.

By laughing along, you become the same.

Maybe stop and think before you mock and make fun of people around you, because you don’t know the damage you are in fact doing.

Because if you do laugh along, you too are also lacking in social human skills. You then join the underbelly.

Now ask yourself, “Am I socially and mentally aware?”

Credits:-

Accent on legs dress from the IM Collection now at the Designer Showcase

Gem eyes  from Amara Beauty

Tropical eyeshadow from A R T E

Oline lipstick from A R T E

Livia hair from Truth

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Edie  skin in 04 from  Amara Beauty