Washed up and middle aged

Washed up and Middle Aged

I had a comment put on  my one YouTube video yesterday which really made me chuckle.

The comment said and I quote “Why do middle aged, washed up,  unattractive and overweight women in this game represent themselves as being young and attractive”.

Im guessing that was a personal dig/comment aimed at me. I mean  I  could assume it was aimed at someone else but as it was put under one of my videos then it was aimed at me.

Why did it make me chuckle. Let me tell you. I have regularly received such hateful remarks and as frustrated as I could get over them and feel the need to dramatically exit doing my thing, I choose not to.

I choose to swim against the tide and make no doubt about it, I am a strong swimmer despite the awful hateful things I get called.

You see, I am not easily bullied,  that I feel I need to leave because one persons perception of me along with their cronies is to “encourage me” by regularly passing insult. I can get hurt yes, but it lasts moments.

A great guy said this to me. “Behind every troll there is an insecure, sleep deprived, ugly hating  soul. Their sole existence is  about hating others in order to make themselves feel better about themselves, yet deep down, they do not ever reach that better feeling.”

Sadly in the Vlogger/Blogger community part of Second Life there is this competitive negative force and people feel the need to behave in ways they deep down know they wouldn’t or shouldn’t ordinarily. That competitiveness is destructive and not community based.

Yet behind the keyboard these people turn into playground bullies and think it is ok to behave so.

I grew up in an era of the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never harm me” For me, that is very true. They hurt, but I forget a day later.

But for others the harm can be real. If you are one of these soul destroyed people who feels the need to behave so in order to either boost yourself or ingratiate yourself to someone else. Stop and think.

The words that you spout on social media, has direct impact and can very much harm a person and you would be responsible.

But I need to add to  that person who follows me to pop the dislikes regularly and the insulting comments via their alternate YouTube accounts and their cronies. Last time I checked myself out in the mirror, I am neither washed up, unattractive or hugely overweight. Yes I am middle aged, I own that. But believe me, you will get there one day too!

I am a professional in real  life, I have qualifications, I have a family, I have children who have great careers and I have a grandson and I have great close friends.

I also have a past of fighting against abuse and bullies for being the person I am and for how I have looked. I was a model back in the day and because of how I looked I suffered a great deal of bullying from that part of life and sexist behaviour’s from a male dominated work force.

In my virtual world, I can be who I want to be. So if I want to be a lithe blonde then I will be a lithe blonde, If I want to be Chubby Marika, then I will be. If I want to be a buxom Thelma, then that is who I will be. Harriet, I will be her any day.

After all it is my Second Life and I will do as I please because I pay my way to be here.

If any of my readers find themselves in this situation, I want you to know I am soon to create something that I believe will help all the people who are feeling bullied, trolled, made to feel not good enough etc.

As a community, we need to stand up and say hell no to all the bullies.


Hep top and leggings from I M Collection

Hep flat shoes fromI M Collection

Ruky pose from Lyrium at the EQUAL10 Event

Gem eyes  from Amara Beauty

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Zafirah lipstick from A R T E

Shakira hair from DOUX

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Edie  skin in 04 from  Amara Beauty

Shot on location at The Peak beach area


Are you mentally aware?

Are you mentally aware?

I have just finished my week long course on Mental Health awareness. It is mental health week as well in case you are not aware.

I feel more drained and really aware right now. Because with more knowledge comes the awareness and the realisation of how fragile people are and how people who lack social skills can severely damage them.

Frankly what I have heard and seen this week has really brought so much more home to me how little things to us are monumentally huge to others.

Bullies and trolls are the underbelly of society. They are the underbelly of the virtual worlds we reside in, the underbelly of social media and the underbelly of families who don’t realise they have them in their midst.

By laughing along, you become the same.

Maybe stop and think before you mock and make fun of people around you, because you don’t know the damage you are in fact doing.

Because if you do laugh along, you too are also lacking in social human skills. You then join the underbelly.

Now ask yourself, “Am I socially and mentally aware?”


Accent on legs dress from the IM Collection now at the Designer Showcase

Gem eyes  from Amara Beauty

Tropical eyeshadow from A R T E

Oline lipstick from A R T E

Livia hair from Truth

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Edie  skin in 04 from  Amara Beauty

Coffee about Trolls, blogger issues and a thank you

Coffee about Trolls, blogger issues and a thank you

So I had a multitude of issues trying to upload Coffee with Isa to YouTube.

Then I realized actually by integrating the virtual me it caused the upload to crash each time as when I removed the majority of the virtual overlay, finally after 3 attempts last night and then another 4 coming home today. Job done.

Here it is.



Isabella Boho shirt from Addams

Frappe Denim shorts from Blueberry

Blessed eyes  from A R T E

Smitten hair from Analog Dog

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Photo taken at La Vie

Virtual footage shot at Luanes World

Real me shot in my living room

An udder day

An udder day

So my being trolled and such continues each day.

It’s a really draining exercise because one person has all the time in the world to sit there at their computer and do this.

I already know who it is and have informed You Tube of my suspicions.

They are currently monitoring it.

Unfortunately the automatic takedown nonsense is part and parcel of my daily regime having to then appeal the take down. That is I’ve said a HUGE flaw You Tube has.

The malicious person can do the action, the automated You Tube completes the action because it has been sent an alert.

The human You Tube then becomes involved at the appeal button press.

What a complete long haul process.

I’ve been taken down each day for violent content, acts of hatred and apparently highly sexual content.

Go figure! We all know this isn’t the case but it’s now my daily thing.

But want to know something?

There are totally decent people out there who have contacted me to give me support and encouragement and for that I am truly thankful.

I’m also thankful to the merchants who I have informed so far for their words of support.

It’s my blog, it’s my You Tube channel of 7 years. I’m not letting one disturbed person ruin what I have worked hard on. An adult by the way. Jealous adult.


Credits :-

Isla hair from Wasabi Pills

I hope you dance sweater and skirt from Entice at the Liaison Collaborative

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at La Vie



Good morning

So I’m sat here on my bus headed to work and after yesterday’s troller drama, You Tube have taken down that strike that some silly person attempted to make against my account.

It does go to show we need to stick up for ourselves.

Don’t be intimidated by individual or group troublemakers that invade what we do. Tackle them head on and fight our cause.

Well in saying that I’m not advocating a punch up in a back street alley. I’m saying don’t feel you can’t stand up for yourself when it comes to your social media.

You don’t have to be bullied and trolled. Report them. Raise awareness. Don’t allow the silly people to get away with it.

My situation with You Tube.Unfortunately You Tube have a bot system which reacts when someone raises a false claim. The bot system is automatic but once you appeal and report they do actually look further into it.

If you don’t bother and just accept what has happened then it stays. So always stand up for yourself if you get an issue.

And if you can’t, get someone to help you.

Have a lovely day.


Credits :-

Anzu hair by Argrace

Liziah outfit from Enigma at the TWE12VE

The outfit consists of  dress, shoes and choker

Self reflection bento pose from Luanes World

40’s lipstick from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at La Vie

Oooops back to work with a troll on my back!

Oooops back to work with a troll on my back!


I’m back on the dreaded bus going to work.

Life as we know it, returns back to normal.

I was just getting used to my lazy lifestyle the past two weeks and now boom!

Apparently it’s what we must do if we want money. Totally ridiculous I know.

I’m envisaging around 600 emails and a pile of post that no one has bothered to touch. It’s always the same old.

On another note, I was reading my you tube comments and replying as I do. Apparently the SL “selfies” in blog posts appearing in Reddit are “effing retarded” as is the video that said person watched.

I figure it can’t be that bad as they took the time to watch.

If I don’t like something, I simply do not even look at it.

So bless be those who are “forced” against their free will to watch a 18 minute video against their will!!!

I often chuckle at this kind of thing. Trolls are a source of amusement to me. The very idea that you have to insult people in order to gain a “like” or some kind of kudos says a lot about an individual.

Now let me show you my totally selfie video…



Lazed dress from ::OOPS!::

Reign Montgomery fur jacket Gacha MP

Halle high sandals from {kokoia}

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E at the Cosmetic Fair

Classic lipstick from A R T E   in the August Powder Pack

Charm Eyebrows from A R T E in the August Powder Pack

Appreciate the light pose from Luanes World

Maitreya Fur Jacket gacha

Amanda Hair from D!va

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Alina dance from MOVE! Animations Cologne MIXED – STAGE – SEXY – HIPHOP

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