Little bird

Little bird

Little bird, let me love and protect you.

Let me nurse you to spread your wings and fly.

So yesterday I had a major meltdown. Major.

It’s to be expected but none the less I scared even myself.

The rollercoaster of emotions that come and go during this time is something I know many of us can’t control and what do we do?

Well my honest answer is, why hide how you are feeling. Yesterday my whole work team got to experience how I was feeling.

Usually I’m chatty and laughing but something snapped and I let them all know that hey guys I’m not ok, I had questions to ask. I was told that the meeting was not the forum to ask those questions.

I felt bad about it, burst out crying and ended my side of a video conference call.

I cried all day and all evening. Cried my heart out. Missing my children and also upset with myself for my human outburst which may have upset my colleagues.

BUT I woke up today and thought, hang on a minute!!! Why ask me if I’m ok but then shut me down when I answer.

Isn’t the point of that question is to get my honest answer? Isn’t it? Aren’t meetings about the well being of staff supposed to also address that there are people not coping ok?

So today I wake up and I feel much better about it because I realise that I allowed them to see I’m not. But when it was seen I’m not ok, it suddenly is not “appropriate” to not be ok as people can’t face the reality of what that question actually means.

I think a lot of you know what I mean. It’s the seen to be doing something but not actually doing it.

I don’t blame my colleagues or my manager at all. They’re human beings too and are also struggling with their own inner conflicts.

But will I participate in these meetings in the future? No. Because, if I am asked am I ok, I don’t feel I should pretend I am, when I am not. That is a waste of time for me and my logical mind says that I’d rather work than do that dance because it ticks a box.

I’d rather get on a telephone and talk to a good friend who understands and isn’t scared to listen or answer.

The worst part of yesterday. It was a video conference. So not only did my colleagues hear my upset, but they got to see it. That isn’t fair to me or them.

One thing I am learning in this whole experience that we deal with things in very different ways.

That we mustn’t keep inside how we are feeling because by doing that we make it worse.

Talking about your feelings is important and even if they’re irrational, airing them helps you to move forward.

I truly advocate open discussions and checking in on people. Letting people know you may need help or that you just need a hug.

As human beings we are quite social beings on the whole. Although some of us like solitude, we also need to express emotion, talk, feel, hug, love and be ultimately human.

It’s totally ok to melt down. It’s totally ok to cry. Shout and be irrational.

Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for those feelings. COVID19 is affecting everyone in many ways.

Be there to listen. Be there to show you do care.

Be human!

Credits:-

Alyxx utility jumpsuit from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

Halo hair from Knox at the Tres Chic

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Shot on location at Dya’s scent of carribean

Here I am

Here I am

Jazz hands at you!

Really, Jazz hands.

That’s my answer to this week and I’m glad to say the working week is done. I’m like most people a little jaded and tired and desperately seeking.

An end to this life and a start to something . Anything other than this feeling of suffocation and sense of loss.

It’s the weirdest feeling cycle I’m going through and I’m pretty sure many others are too.

Last night we hear here in the U.K. we have 3 more weeks of lockdown. Then they clearly review it again.

I get that because frankly it’s a truly serious set of circumstances we are all in.

But my heart gets heavy as time is passing and it doesn’t feel like there is a solution as yet.

It’s easy to rollercoaster emotion from jovial light heartedness then to a deep sense of loss in the pit of the stomach. But not sure on pinpointing what that feeling of loss is.

I meant that sounds pretty dramatic doesn’t it?

But that is the only way I can describe it.

It’s just a word to describe the sense of feeling.

COVID-19 is what it’s called and we still don’t really have any answers or solutions.

Or if there are any, no one is telling us.

I foolishly watched the film Contagion the other night. What was incredibly spooky is it mirrored all of what we are experiencing right now. Is it coincidence or the powers of the universe that in 2011 when this film was released, that we could have learnt something from then? Who knows.

I’ll wake up tomorrow with a different mindset. Because that’s how I resolve most things that trouble me.

I swear I’m becoming Jekyll and Hyde. I mean why not. I’m already Harriet, Thelma, Beverley and Marika.

And no I don’t plan to wear formal outfits to the farm.

Only in virtual worlds!

Credits:-

Ronja latex bodysuit from Kimbra at the Designer Showcase

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Charlotte hair from Analog Dog

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty

Shot on location at Luanes World

Isolation and PE with Joe

Isolation and PE with Joe

Harriet Parker has now found herself in isolation in a platform in the sky as Isabelle Cheren took on social distancing.

With the help of a number of sponsors Harriet was able to settle comfortably into her new surroundings.

As we know, Harriet has always been an active person and likes to keep fit.

With the whole isolation thing, Harriet is now finding her fitness from YouTube.

Now the video….

Video:-

Credits:-

Alyxx utility jumpsuit from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

At home skybox  form Ionic and furnishings at the EQUAL10 Event

Floor lamp and leather chair from Mulloy at the EQUAL10 Event

Corbyn bed from Wrong at the EQUAL10 Event

Hollie hair from Rama at the EQUAL10 Event

Sense VR tv from Backbone

Yoga mat from Dutchie

Zafirah lipstick  from A R T E

Glam eyeshadow from A R T E

Kimberley bento head from CATWA

Evie shape for the CATWA Kimberley head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora skin from Amara

Baby Harriet from Zooby

High Chair from Zooby

 

Los Lounges holiday

Los Lounges holiday

Today in my Coffee chat I am coming to you directly from my holiday destination in Los Lounges.

As I sit here at Rotunda De Sofa, admiring the sunset, I can’t wait for tomorrow.

Sunshine at Las Balconies.

Video:-

Credits:-

Kuuda tunic  dress (with hud) from Artizana at the Designer Showcase

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Nala hair from Knox

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty

#SLIsolationWorkout Challenge

#SLIsolationWorkout Challenge

During the current crisis around the world, Thelma has made a decision she not only needs to keep herself fit but she also has to influence others to join her. Thelma is now a Social Influencer!!

She has created the #SLIsolationWorkout challenge.

Sharing on all social media to get all our virtual world self isolators into the challenge and doing fun things to smile and feel better.

So the challenge has no prize. It simply is about everyone coming together to bring a smile and show the world that there is more to life than our feeling sad and despondent about our situations. We are after all , ALL in this together.

Simply, create a video, photo, meme made in Second Life or even Sansar and tag it #SLIsolationWorkout

Lets have some fun and just make people smile and lift each other up rather than fall.

If you are feeling giving you can also donate to the  World Health Organization to help gain aid for people who are not as fortunate as many of us are to COVID-19 Response Fund in order to get essential equipment out.

Find charities in your local countries via your health organisations to aid toward donating blood and funds as well.

Remember, social distancing and make sure you follow the guidelines of washing hands, not touching your face when out in public and where you can wear a mask if you are in busy areas. Those are not hard to make yourself. It doesn’t matter how silly you feel, its better to be alive  than embarrassed.

Now enjoy the video…..

Video:-

Credits:-

Almost Summer dress from IM Collection at the Designer Showcase

Lyn eyes from A R T E 

Anne house from M L Designs

Spooked hair from Tableau Vivant

Simone head from Lelutka

Lara mesh body from Maitreya

Isabella skin in tone 5 from Amara Beauty

Natural lipgloss from A R T E 


PLAY FREE

Home isolation

Home isolation

I am guessing many of you are on isolation from the work place as you start working from home.

Maybe you are  isolated as someone is showing signs of illness or maybe like me you have underlying conditions considered a risk.

I already have  for a year worked from home. I am therefore quite adept to isolated working as it suits my inner wierdo as well as my health.

Many of us are extremely lucky to have space for our isolation. A balcony, garden or courtyard we can disappear into and breathe the world in and stretch.

Spare a thought for those  who don’t have the luxury of balcony or a garden. Isolation is within 4 walls and can be pretty lonely for anyone alone or pretty anxious and fraught for those living on top of each other.

Encourage some virtual social networking if you can to enable those people who have no one to talk to and would love some company, encourage them to join us in our virtual worlds whichever ones you are in.

For the current future this is our lives until the madness dissipates and we may as well make the best of it. Its such a strange time and scary one, but we dont have to sit with that weighing on us, we can choose to just make the best of our current situations and find things to occupy our minds and time.

Spend more time with those you live with, bake, play games, discuss dreams and ambitions.  Make video memories and take photos.

Be positive and laugh. For the most part, laughter is a free medicine and you helping with that smile on someone’s face, is the best gift you can give.

On another note, be like me and bask in the sunset and feel the beauty of life.

This is the first time I am blogging for M Law Designs and as we know im not an overly huge décor blogger but I want to get better. Of course I prefer people in a photo and so as per usual for me most of the time I had to throw myself on the day bed and wear a outfit from IM Collection….

 

Credits:-

Anette Blouse and cropped pants from IM Collection at Sense Event

Marina Barrel day bed from M. Law Designs and only $60L as promo

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Charlotte hair from Analog Dog

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty

It’s not perfect

It’s not perfect

So I’m now in the underlying conditions isolation part of the world gone wierd.

This all got real when I went to the grocery store Tesco and the shelves were empty. Then I convinced myself this has to be a dream, surely.

I’ll wake up soon and life will just be “normal”.

It’s not a dream and the hard hard hard reality is we are facing a very difficult time. How do we cope with this will vary from person to person.

I want to say laughter is a very good medicine. It is a positive way to lift spirits at times of tough living and sadness.

Laughter is not disrespecting a situation or making light.

It’s a way some of us as human beings find to deal with a difficult time, for our own mindfulness.

So please at this time, don’t attack people for their ways of coping. Everyone comes in different ways. We are all individuals.

I’ve seen people accusing others of being disrespectful or cashing in on the situation.

The truth is, everyone has their own situations and we can’t “suppose” on what theirs is.

This situation is something everyone is now in, not just a few. Remember that.

Be kind to each other. Kindness after all is free!

I broke my pixel wrist on this pose. I nearly deleted it, but decided to use it, to show life is not perfect.

Credits:-

Lolita sweater  from  Emma’s Secret at the Designer Showcase

J0201 hair from Tram at the EQUAL10 Event

Fall tights from Pixicat

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Bon Voyage pose from Amitie

Sweet Gloss  Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty

Shot on location at Motorheadz Cafe

Living

Living

My garden has changed since this picture. The lovely couch and harp are still out there but I’ve gone a little nuts with my home.

All will be revealed at some stage, if I don’t change my mind before!! Designer Showcase and Raindale. Deets in the credits below.

On another note. I hope you are all ok and looking after yourselves.

We are facing a wierd time in history and bombarded by so much news that we really don’t know what is best to do.

Personally I’m taking the approach of trying not to become obsessed with the situation but at the same time, exercising care and making sure I am not placing myself in situations that could make me carry anything.

I have my own underlying health issues, but so do a heck of a lot of people. Remember, underlying health issues are the ones you cannot easily see.

It’s not just old people, it’s any age that can have one.

My grandson is 4, to be 5 in July. Those that have been with me a long time know Mason’s story.

There are many children like him out there, who come though heart operations but you still have to remember, it’s not always visible.

Children are not immune. Don’t assume that.

Be sensible, don’t panic. But I agree make sure you have food in your cupboards, but for goodness sake, don’t forget the elderly who can’t run to the stores or the poorer people around you and the homeless people.

Donate to food banks!!!

Look out for them. Put your hand in that shopping bag and share.

Credits:-

Nizza outdoor couch from Dreamland Designs at the Designer Showcase March

Magic Harp  with violin gift from Raindale at theLiaison Collaborative till 26 March

The magic Harp lays music  and both the flowers in the Harp and  violin colour change

Beaumon teepee from Raindale at the Cosmopolitan Event

 

Corona Virus Diary of self isolation

Corona Virus Diary of self isolation

Day 12 of Self Isolation and the madness starts to set in.

Thelma’s hair isn’t getting any better and the days are starting to blur into weeks.

Time is endless and Thelma needs to find some things to do.

It’s amazing what you can do when you’re stuck at home for weeks on end.

Enjoy the video. It’s not your normal Saturday dance music video . But it is!!!

Video:-

Dance Credits:-

Hannah Volume 2 Booty Moves Bento dances from MOVE Animations Cologne

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Clothing Credits:-

Paras outfit from [Masoom] at theEQUAL10 Event

Cellar Game Backdop from VOZ at the EQUAL10 Event

Music Lover eyes from A R T E  at the Liaison Collaborative

Music Lover  face tattoo  from A R T E  at the Liaison Collaborative

Halo hair from Tableau Vivant

Simone head from Lelutka

Lara mesh body from Maitreya

Natural lipgloss from A R T E 

Isabelle skin in tone 5 from Amara Beauty

 

MOVE Animations Social Media

Tena Lady?

Tena Lady?

Some days I just am left flabbergasted and speechless.

Hard to believe I know, given I have a propensity to have something to say about most things.

Topic on everyone’s lips is Coronavirus.

I don’t think there is any media outlet that isn’t running with the Corona story. It’s after all hot press right now.

I’m flabbergasted at toilet roll. I’m still flabbergasted.

I kid you not, I struggle to understand why toilet roll, pasta and tinned baked beans have suddenly become like gold.

I’ve not heard anyone has had the need for extra wipes, have you?

Stress incontinence maybe from all that coughing. So I’d imagine Tena lady being worth a mint. But no it’s loo roll. Go figure.

Personally I’m taking a leaf out of Rosie Helendale’s book and going to stock up on gin.

If the zombie apocalypse is nigh then seriously gin and chocolate is what I need.

I’m going to leave this world on a sugar overdose thank you.

Other than that I may go self isolate in a pumpkin field surrounded by scarecrows and sing hippy ballads to the field mice!

Credits:-

Marta outfit from AnaStyle now at the Designer Showcase

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

WTF hair from no.match

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty