Don’t just stand there looking

Don’t just stand there looking

I don’t speak of my background but my mother was a result of a mixed race love affair. In South Africa. In times of Apartheid. Her mother married an afrikaaner and she was born. But she was noticeably quite different.

But she took on being the “white” persona.
She herself became racist. Go figure!!
She met my father who was a result of a Jewish family and then they eventually relocated to Australia. But in between my childhood years I lived in South Africa and Australia. I saw apartheid and experienced what it was like to never be sure where we were “allowed”.  I was in the middle, never comfortable in the white lane or the black lane. I grew up hating my heritage.
When apartheid was abolished and after spending my majority of childhood in Australia and loving people just for being humans no matter their colour or race or religious beliefs, I’m honestly so sick in my stomach that Today in 2020, this absolute sick human thought process still exists! 
Black lives matter, white lives matter, ALL lives matter!!
You can’t sit back and say and do nothing. You can’t just sit back and say “I hope it gets sorted out”. 
Stop sitting there and placating. Human lives matter. Speak up, do something. 
Show the bigots and racists, mysoginists and all others that we will not tolerate them. 
It’s 2020, It’s time they caught up and got themselves educated. 
Violence doesn’t work. History has taught us that.
Use intelligence, use education, use voice. Vote well!!!Protest peacefully and use your voice!!

Credits:-

Book Punk skirt from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

Sage knotted top from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

Mimi Hair from // MIWAS // at the EQUAL10 Event

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora BOM skin from  Amara Beauty

Little bird

Little bird

Little bird, let me love and protect you.

Let me nurse you to spread your wings and fly.

So yesterday I had a major meltdown. Major.

It’s to be expected but none the less I scared even myself.

The rollercoaster of emotions that come and go during this time is something I know many of us can’t control and what do we do?

Well my honest answer is, why hide how you are feeling. Yesterday my whole work team got to experience how I was feeling.

Usually I’m chatty and laughing but something snapped and I let them all know that hey guys I’m not ok, I had questions to ask. I was told that the meeting was not the forum to ask those questions.

I felt bad about it, burst out crying and ended my side of a video conference call.

I cried all day and all evening. Cried my heart out. Missing my children and also upset with myself for my human outburst which may have upset my colleagues.

BUT I woke up today and thought, hang on a minute!!! Why ask me if I’m ok but then shut me down when I answer.

Isn’t the point of that question is to get my honest answer? Isn’t it? Aren’t meetings about the well being of staff supposed to also address that there are people not coping ok?

So today I wake up and I feel much better about it because I realise that I allowed them to see I’m not. But when it was seen I’m not ok, it suddenly is not “appropriate” to not be ok as people can’t face the reality of what that question actually means.

I think a lot of you know what I mean. It’s the seen to be doing something but not actually doing it.

I don’t blame my colleagues or my manager at all. They’re human beings too and are also struggling with their own inner conflicts.

But will I participate in these meetings in the future? No. Because, if I am asked am I ok, I don’t feel I should pretend I am, when I am not. That is a waste of time for me and my logical mind says that I’d rather work than do that dance because it ticks a box.

I’d rather get on a telephone and talk to a good friend who understands and isn’t scared to listen or answer.

The worst part of yesterday. It was a video conference. So not only did my colleagues hear my upset, but they got to see it. That isn’t fair to me or them.

One thing I am learning in this whole experience that we deal with things in very different ways.

That we mustn’t keep inside how we are feeling because by doing that we make it worse.

Talking about your feelings is important and even if they’re irrational, airing them helps you to move forward.

I truly advocate open discussions and checking in on people. Letting people know you may need help or that you just need a hug.

As human beings we are quite social beings on the whole. Although some of us like solitude, we also need to express emotion, talk, feel, hug, love and be ultimately human.

It’s totally ok to melt down. It’s totally ok to cry. Shout and be irrational.

Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for those feelings. COVID19 is affecting everyone in many ways.

Be there to listen. Be there to show you do care.

Be human!

Credits:-

Alyxx utility jumpsuit from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

Halo hair from Knox at the Tres Chic

Reflectice eyes  from Amara Beauty

Gloss Lipstick from A R T E

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Shot on location at Dya’s scent of carribean

Isolation and PE with Joe

Isolation and PE with Joe

Harriet Parker has now found herself in isolation in a platform in the sky as Isabelle Cheren took on social distancing.

With the help of a number of sponsors Harriet was able to settle comfortably into her new surroundings.

As we know, Harriet has always been an active person and likes to keep fit.

With the whole isolation thing, Harriet is now finding her fitness from YouTube.

Now the video….

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Credits:-

Alyxx utility jumpsuit from Vinyl at the EQUAL10 Event

At home skybox  form Ionic and furnishings at the EQUAL10 Event

Floor lamp and leather chair from Mulloy at the EQUAL10 Event

Corbyn bed from Wrong at the EQUAL10 Event

Hollie hair from Rama at the EQUAL10 Event

Sense VR tv from Backbone

Yoga mat from Dutchie

Zafirah lipstick  from A R T E

Glam eyeshadow from A R T E

Kimberley bento head from CATWA

Evie shape for the CATWA Kimberley head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Nora skin from Amara

Baby Harriet from Zooby

High Chair from Zooby

 

Balance

Balance

Often I look at poses and wonder what inspires them and how the creator may have come up with the idea for a pose.

I mean let’s face it, standing on a pumpkin, balancing another pumpkin isn’t exactly something that just springs to mind.

In fact when I bought this the other weekend on I believe it was Saturday Sale, I bought it because of its unique little pose.

You don’t often see people using their pumpkins this way. Personally I love to eat them. That reminds me , Pumpkin pie!!!

So me being the person I am started looking for things to do with pumpkin balancing on google.

OMG I found this!!!!

Nothing like my pose but frankly if you are like me swayed into cuteness easily then you know how distracted I got.

Now I think the next animation should be, balancing on a pumpkin with a pumpkin balanced on the head, eating pumpkin pie.

Credits:-

Pressure top (with hud) from Entice as the Cosmopolitan Event

Poprocks Tom Boy pants from Vinyl

Feather Necklace from Maxi Gossamer

Gem eyes  from Amara Beauty

Glam on eyeshadow from A R T E

Zafirah lipstick from A R T E

Charlotte hair from Analog Dog

Catya bento head from CATWA

Balancing Act pose from -Extra-

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Edie  skin in 04 from  Amara Beauty

Not just a mother

Not just a mother

Thelma feels there has to be more to life than 24/7 Trevor.

As much as she loves the little one, she needs a break and some her time.

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Credits:-

Earth Song tshirt from Entice at the Curves

Poprcoks tomboy rolled  pants from Vinyl

Zana earrings from Shanghai at the June Designer Showcase

Kels hair by *Foxy

Borealis eyes from A R T E

Simone bento head from Lelutka

Freya Mesh body from Belleza

Iza dark skin from Lara Hurley

Little Trevor and his bedroom from Zooby

A moment in Cospe

A moment in Cospe

So I managed to get  myself a space navigator! Amazing but my god will take some practice as Im a jerky cam girl.

This video wasn’t shot with it . I did this video for a challenge for this music track and decided to go slo mo.

Happy Saturdays….

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Credits:-

Frothy Top from Vinyl

Hart Wide leg pants from Vinyl at Collabor88

Gem eyes  from Amara Beauty

Tropical eyeshadow from A R T E

Oline lipstick from A R T E

Smitten hair from Analog Dog

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Edie  skin in 04 from  Amara Beauty

Shot on location at Cloudbreak

Dances I have used are so the Abranimations ballet bento  dances

Not again Trevor!

Not again Trevor!

Further to the story of Thelma and Trevor, the lazy ass has landed himself in jail. Yet again!

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Credits:-

Brainstew Hoodie and Cargo pants from Vinyl

Frankenstomp Boots from DRD

Routine Bento pose *!R.O!*

Simone bento head from Lelutka

Freya Mesh body from Belleza

Bonnie and Clyde glasses from [SteinWerk]

Teanna hair from Truth

Rie Rose Pale skin from Lara Hurley

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