Leap to it like a night stalker

Leap to it like a night stalker

I am on my way to work on the bus and I feel I should still be in my bed.

It’s dark out here and I am exhausted.

Remember that film Ground Hog day?

Let’s keep repeating last night please so I can keep finding my lovely comfortable bed. The one where the two fluffy cats drape themselves all over me and sing me to sleep with their musical purring.

Have a lovely day and don’t I look super vampire ninja.

Credits:-

Lanah outfit (includes bodysuit, boots and choker) from Enigma at the Darkness Event

Salve Halo from ::OOPS:: at the Darkness Event

Gem eyes  from Amara Beauty

Blossom eyeshadow from A R T E

Sweet gloss  lipstick from A R T E

Panny  hair from Truth

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Edie  skin in 04 from  Amara Beauty

I need a stiff drink

I need a stiff drink

This week I’m on another week long H&S course. It’s the most intense week I’ve had in a long time and the first time I’ve actually considered I’d rather be at work.

Why?

Because the tutor sucketh on a grand scale.

He has so much knowledge but too much opinion and if I hear one more Thatcher reference I will combustulate.

I don’t give a diddly squat about Thatcher or May or Corbyn right now.

All I’m interested in is becoming the best rep I can be and helping my colleagues.

Passing my accreditation would help.

I think the one aspect of unions I find difficult is the intense political BS that some unionists love to shove down your throat.

Don’t get me wrong I believe in the labour way and unionisation. I’m just referring to the select group who believe they’re only accountable by political belief.

Thatcher is dead and it’s 2018 now. Life has moved forward and we have to deal with what’s here and now. I’m here to learn, so damn well teach me!

Credits:-

Leandra dress from  LIZIAAH now at the Designer Showcase (from the 5th June)

Rare eyes  from A R T E

Oline lipstick from A R T E

Glitter eyeshadow from A R T E

Outside the lines hair from Exile

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Ready to rumble

Ready to rumble

It’s the last day today for the Health and Safety course I’ve been on all week.

It’s been really interesting and to say I’ve learnt a thing or two is a wild understatement.

I have actually learnt a lot.

You are never too old to learn something new.

I think that’s the one thing about life we take for granted. The ability to continuously learn new things.

Arrogance in believing we know it all is short sighted. There is always something more to learn and absorb.

Credits:-

Hip Hop dance outfit from AnaSTyle at the Designer Showcase

Charlotte hair from Analog Dog

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at La Vie

Dreaming

Dreaming

Ok I’ve decided I’m want to be at the seaside right about now.

I’m distracting myself doing this blog on the bus as too scared to look out the window as we are swerving stationery cars in the ice.

Is my job worthy of this commitment? Not at all. Will they thank those of us who did venture in? Don’t be daft.

That’s just the life of the average worker.

Some more snow pictures below the credits.

Credits:-

Luxuria wedding gown from  Sascha’s Designs

Charlotte hair from Analog Dog

The last of her kind pose from Luanes World now at Tres Chic

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at Luanes World

What happens in 2015 should be remembered

What happens in 2015 should be remembered

Despite the outward faces of many.

Faces of resilience, strength bravado, the truth is that many of us suffer silently in our dark moments and only the few around us will know those moments.

I am currently within my dark time and struggling to surpass this.

There are many reasons for the darkness. The most real one is work. The struggle to walk in each day and smile at the people who make many of our lives difficult.

I guess mine is compounded by the fact that I know it’s not all in my head because of the role I do as a union representative.

I face those managers who behave like non humans to their employees and I first hand see the manipulations of situations and the effects these have on staff.

You see from my perspective as both a participant and a spectator, going to work in an environment of toxicity is certainly one of the most damaging and dangerous positions many people face each day. The destruction of a person within a toxic work environment is very real.

When an employee cannot trust the person that is there to over see them (the manager) it is almost akin to an abusive domestic relationship. Violence removed.

I go back to 2015 when an employee commited suicide because of work.

The reason for my darkness is that in 2015 on the 20th January a person who I was helping in the work place took her life because of how she felt treated.

My darkness comes and goes over that and on the whole I deal with it with more resilience. But this week it’s sat on my shoulders as the background to many other things going on at work.

I find myself still asking why the manager who acted as the catalyst to the situation received promotion . I ask myself does this manager sleep well at night.

I see her often in passing. She scurries past me because she knows the blame I place at her feet. The family and me. She looks well rested. She has since the day it happened.

Moral of the story. You are much safer at home.

If you or someone you know is suffering speak to someone. Don’t go silently.

There are supports available.

USA

U K

Credits:-

Cowgrl aqua gown from Saschas Designs

Camilla hair from enVOGUE

Shimmer eyeshadow from A R T E in the December Powderpack

Natural lip balm from A R T E at the Chapter Four

You don’t know pose from Luanes World at Tres Chic

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at Luanes World

Coffee with Isa and sexual harassment

Coffee with Isa and sexual harassment

Today’s coffee is a little more thought provoking and serious. But also something many of us, especially women relate to. However never let it be said men don’t suffer this as well as they do.

If you’re being harassed at work

Sexual harassment can include:

Sexual comments or jokes

Physical behaviour, including unwelcome sexual advances, touching and various forms of sexual assault

Displaying pictures, photos or drawings of a sexual nature

Sending emails with a sexual content

If you’re being sexually harassed by someone you work with, you should:

Tell your manager – put it in writing and keep a copy of the letter or email

Talk to your HR team or trade union – they’ll be able to give you advice

Collect evidence – keep a diary recording all of the times you’ve been harassed

In the U.K. under the 2010 Equality Act, sexual harassment is illegal.

Safe Workers 

Rape Crisis

Citizens Advice

EEOC- United States

Reach Out – Australia

Video:-

Credits :-

High waist rippy jeans with Hud from La Geeny and now at the Spotlight Event

Irelands call sweater from Entice at the Designer Showcase

Irenka hair from Truth

Martens boots from ::ROC::

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at La Vie

ROUTE 66

ROUTE 66

Friday. Need I say it!

I’m more than thrilled to know there will be 48 hours of frivolity to come.

I haven’t much to say today, mainly because I’m lacking time and enroute to an investigation hearing I’m representing in RL for someone.

The video will tell you more. Loving this destination too!

Video:-

Credits:-

Danique top from La Geeny

Honey Lips and Meow! eyeshadow from A R T E in the September Powder Pack

Real worn jeans from Addams

Betty hair from [elikatira]

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Filmed on location at Mother Road – Mirage Hotel 66

Dream with me

Dream with me

I believe I’m still asleep right now.

This is all just a dream this getting up and going to work malarkey.

I believe in a campaign for a four day working week and a 3 day weekend. Or maybe just the other way around?

Who decided on a 5 day week and got that wish. I want to meet this bright spark and have a conversation.

I want them to run me through this decision and how they reached it.

What did they consider in this thought process which lead to the majority of the work force wishing Friday would come.

It’s only Thursday and I’m watching the clock tick till Friday 4pm.

I will be out those doors like a stealth ninja, faster than you can say toodles.

Video:-

Credits:-

The studly is Jackson Redstar

Celeb Sweater from Bijou

Let me hold you pose from Luanes World

Meow! eyeshadow and Honey lips from A R T E  in the September Powder Pack

Fall tights from Pixicat

Combat boots from ::ROC::

Charlotte hair from Analog Dog

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Coffee in Baskinta

Coffee in Baskinta

Usually on my bus trip to work I’m chilled and earphones in ears listening to some music.

Today not quite so. Being far from chilled is how anyone who knows me may see me.

It started with a wonderful nights sleep to waking up to remember that I had fasting bloods and another ECG booked this morning. So no breakfast.

But half hour before I’m due to leave I get a phone call to say they have to cancel those tests and book them in for tomorrow due to the nurse who does the ECG going into minor surgery this morning.

So I’m rebooked for 11.20am tomorrow.

Again having to fast all night and wait till around lunch tomorrow to let anything pass my lips.

Unfortunately I’m a nauseous faster and as I sit here right now on the bus I frankly want to heave.

On top of that, I left my earphones at home!

That aside…….

Today’s coffee is slightly different in that although I’m still yakking away about anything and nothing. I’m also showing you this sim.

Feel free to turn the sound down if you wish, just admire this LEA 11 sim.

Video:-

Credits:-

Whiskey in the jar dress from Entice at the We ♥ RP Event

Ginny heels from *SOHOe SHOeS* at the Twe12ve Event

Donna hair from Analog Dog

Catya bento head from CATWA

Angel shape for the Catya head LizBitz

Lara mesh body Maitreya

Christy dark skin Lara Hurley

Shot on location at Baskinta due to open shortly to the public

Décor Jazz

Décor Jazz

Yesterday I arrived home from work basically in tears.

Office bullies are my greatest despise.

They come in all shapes and guises and you least expect it when it happens to you.

I didn’t expect to overhear the discussions whispered at high volume or notice the interrogation of my work by someone who is famously and I mean famously incompetent. But I did.

It hurt.

You see two of the people involved both are highly unprofessional women who have major flaws in the workplace.

One for being basically paid a high wage and not doing her job properly for the last 5 years and the other for her poor behaviour in the office regarding her colleagues and the way she can treat them. Add to that open gossip about other team members in an open plan office.

Back to the first women. She has been protected from disciplinary action from two line manages because of her friendship with the grandparent manager.

If she hadn’t had that protection she would have been out of a job at the very least 3 years ago.

The other is simply great at her actress skills when line management are about.

So yesterday I was in the fire line for their toxic collaboration. It felt awful and today I’m unsure how I feel.

Suffice to say I am not one to tolerate being bullied. That is why I became a union rep in the first place.

Bullies have no right to be in any workplace, school or social environment.

So anyhow I went home and decided to immerse myself in something else.

Another attempt at decor.

Thank you to Raindale for letting me use your land to film.

Video:-

Credits:-

Otterbury Platform from Raindale at the Décor Circle at Tres Chic

Kenward House and Welcome post, the fall edition from Raindale at the Spoonful of Sugar Festival

Oak tree and wild grass from Little Branch

Wild lavender potted plant from Dutchie

Field grass pampas (surrounding house) from Hayabusa Design

Woodhurst dining set from Raindale

Summer garden hanging plants from {what next}